Kids Being Exposed to Sexually Explicit Material

What are my kids seeing online?

With advances in technology, children can now go online and find information on just about anything. Never before has a child had such open and unlimited access to information. This progress is wonderful, but at the same time, not so wonderful. While children now have fun, informative and educational content at their fingertips, they are also easily exposed to adult pornography that is very graphic and often disturbing for even most adults to view! Although this material is legal, it doesn't mean the content is harmless to kids who view it.

While many parents believe that their children have not seen inappropriate content online, kids are saying something very different. The reality is that children as young as 8 and 9 years of age are coming across very sexually explicit material on the Internet.

How are they coming across it?

Accidentally: Oops!

It is very common for children to accidentally come across sexually explicit content. For example, a child may incorrectly type in a website address into a web browser and find themselves on a site s/he did not intend to. This can be an upsetting experience as kids are not developmentally ready to see such graphic information, nor are they expecting to see it. Research has shown that children do not have the means to process it emotionally or intellectually.

Curiosity: Hmmm...I wonder about...

Kids, especially during adolescence, are naturally curious about sexuality and often turn to the Internet to find information of this nature. While searching for information they can be exposed to very graphic and potentially harmful material. Adolescents want to learn about sexuality and relationships, but do not have the experience to compare with some of the graphic material they come across. The result, as research has demonstrated, is that the material can end up being a teaching tool, as the viewing of it can potentially shape and influence a child's development of values and their belief of what a healthy sexual relationship is.

They are just pictures. How can that be harmful?

Research suggests that early exposure to sexually graphic material is likely to have a negative influence and a potentially harmful impact on children. Children deal with this type of information very differently than adults do. In the past, people thought that because children didn't understand sexually graphic information they weren't affected by it. Today, we know differently. Research has shown that while children do not have the emotional maturity, experience or knowledge to understand sexual content, they may unconsciously store the experience in their brains and try to make sense of what they have seen. It can be quite stressful and they will sometimes find ways to act it out to try to make sense of it. Impact can vary depending on the child, the content viewed and the circumstances around how it was viewed.

So... why is it a big deal?

The sexually graphic material found online often shows violence and the dehumanization of people in sexual scenes, especially women. According to experts, explicit pornography can form powerful, but false ideas about healthy relationships and sexuality. It often lacks details of intimacy and doesn't show the development of deep personal relationships. Rather, it encourages sexual acts without any emotional connection or concern for the dignity and respect of the other person. Human sexuality involves emotional, spiritual, and intellectual dimensions as well as physical. Research has demonstrated that all of these are required for a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

What is the possible harm to kids?

Exposure to sexually explicit material:

  • May begin to shape a child's sexual values, attitudes, beliefs and behaviours:

    • May prematurely sexualize a child
    • May incite a child to experiment with sexually explicit behaviour to make sense of it
    • May increase a child's social acceptance of high-risk behaviour
    • May shape a child's expectations in relationships
    • May shape a child's expectations of physical appearances and certain sexual acts
    • May increase a child's risk of victimization, as it may blur boundaries
    • May increase a child's health risks (i.e. sexually transmitted infections, sexual exploitation, etc.)
    • May increase a child's risk of problematic sexual behaviour against other children in an effort to experiment
    • May interfere with a child's healthy sexual development

Signs that your child may be experiencing stress from viewing sexually graphic information online

The following are signs that a child may be experiencing distress:

  • There are noticeable changes in her/his typical behaviour. The child seems easily agitated, overly sensitive and emotional.
  • Your child mentions the image s/he saw is interfering with her/his other thoughts. It seems to keep "popping" into her/his head.
  • Your child begins to experience difficulty sleeping.

How can I respond?

Be emotionally available and willing to listen to your child. When a child goes through a stressful experience, it is helpful for them to just have someone who cares about them to talk to without fear of judgment.

What can I do to reduce the chance of my child accessing pornography?

It is important to remember that we cannot keep children shielded within a bubble, nor would we want to! What we need to do is balance empowering children with protecting them.

Suggestions include:

  • Be involved in what your child is doing.
  • Set limits on what your child is allowed to watch (e.g. Internet, television and video games).
  • Supervise your child when s/he is online.
  • Set up parental controls on your computer.
  • Talk openly to your child about the hidden negative messages in media, music, fashion and advertising (e.g. the glorification of violence, sexual harm, power and control, and gender stereotypes).
  • Provide a standard of measure about healthy relationships and healthy sexuality that your child can compare to when trying to make sense of mass media messages.
  • Foster positive body image.
  • Foster positive gender identities. Discuss:
    • Different types of relationships (e.g. acquaintance, intimate, sexual, etc.)
    • The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships
    • The difference between respecting and breaking personal boundaries
    • The rights and responsibilities associated with sexual behaviour
    • The health risks associated with sexual activity
    • The importance of self-worth and dignity
Add Your Comment
Anonymous wrote:
April 19, 2016 10:42 pm

Can a child that has been exposed to sexually explicit material accuse someone of doing sexual acts to him or her when it has not really happened?

Anonymous wrote:
May 2, 2016 3:46 pm

Any child discussing exposure to sexually explicit material or sexual touching needs to be taken seriously and reported to an agency who has specialized training and is responsible for handling these types of situations, such as child welfare and police. In Canada, there is a legal duty to report a child in need of protection.

Anonymous wrote:
April 9, 2016 8:40 pm

When people buy a device it should have parental control pre installed by law and the adult should be given instructions and guidance on how/why/if they should use it.

Anonymous wrote:
March 13, 2016 3:40 pm

I am smart I do not do those things!

Anonymous wrote:
December 26, 2014 12:12 pm

I wish adult content was moved to an all adult entertainment site and could no be accessed without a user account, date of birth and password so that kids online would be much safer

Anonymous wrote:
February 18, 2016 1:11 am
Anonymous wrote:
November 19, 2015 12:57 am

But they want kids to get accessed to it so that these sex industries earn more. The more people watching it more industries earn

Anonymous wrote:
November 16, 2015 10:31 pm

the date of birth could be faked

Anonymous wrote:
November 10, 2014 11:30 am

When young children are exposed to sexually graphic material they cannot process the information. If you are experiencing distress or intrusive thoughts from exposure during childhood, you should consult a health professional who can help you process the experience.

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